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I know what I want, and I demand it. I am a Woman. You might say I'm a Bitch, but I'll just take that as a compliment. It means that I am assertive, unapologetic, demanding, intelligent, intimidating, in control, fierce, dominating... All positive attributes. I embrace my sexuality, and I'm not afraid. But don't get the wrong impression and think that it means I'll be open to your stereotypical slandering. I am not interested in you. I am not easy, and I won't suck your dick because I want you to like me. Try that with me, and I'll fucking rip it off. I don't need You, or anyone else.
I am Me. And that's all I'll ever need.


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Oct 24, 2008

Feminism has suffered because of its views on beauty and fashion, author says

Feminism has suffered because of its views on beauty and fashion, author says

Craig Chamberlain, News Editor
217-333-2894; cdchambe@uiuc.edu

12/14/04

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In “Fresh Lipstick: Redressing Fashion and Feminism” (Palgrave Macmillan), to be published in January, Linda Scott takes on the “antibeauty ideology” that she says has dominated feminist thinking about dress and personal appearance for 150 years. She is a professor of advertising and of gender and women’s studies
CHAMPAIGN, Ill. — Feminism needs to end its long obsession with the politics of personal appearance, and get past its dim view of beauty, says author Linda Scott, who describes herself as a feminist.

It’s an issue that has divided women much more than it has aided their cause, Scott says in a new book she wrote with young women in mind. She is a professor of advertising and of gender and women’s studies at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.

In “Fresh Lipstick: Redressing Fashion and Feminism” (Palgrave Macmillan), to be published in January, Scott takes on the “antibeauty ideology” that she says has dominated feminist thinking about dress and personal appearance for 150 years. In the process, she essentially writes a new history of the women’s movement, revising or amending much of commonly accepted feminist history.

“Feminist writers have consistently argued that a woman’s attempt to cultivate her appearance makes her a dupe of fashion, the plaything of men, and thus a collaborator in her own oppression,” Scott wrote in the book’s introduction. “Though this wisdom has seldom been open to question as a matter of principle, it has always produced discord at the level of practice.”

In practice, the issue of personal appearance has been used repeatedly as an instrument of power and control within the women’s movement, reinforcing biases of class, education and ethnicity, Scott wrote. “In every generation, the women with more education, more leisure, and more connections to institutions of power – from the church to the press to the university – have been the ones who tried to tell other women what they must wear in order to be liberated.”

Scott points out that people in every culture and throughout history have groomed and decorated themselves, and for a complex variety of reasons, not just sexual attraction. Feminists have often advocated a more “natural” appearance, but what is natural is for people to alter their appearance, Scott wrote. Even the concept of what is natural is tied to one’s culture.

Feminists also have defined “natural” only in negative terms, usually criticizing “whatever the prevailing fashion found attractive,” Scott wrote.

The founding group of feminists, including Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton, were rooted in an upper-class Puritan tradition that strongly influenced their attitude about dress and personal appearance, Scott wrote. “In their calls for simplicity of dress, (they) were echoing years of conservative tradition in their own community, rather than making a ground-breaking critique as is often claimed,” she wrote.

Scott documents in her book how the call for plain and prim dress has been passed down through the generations, justified in different ways by successive groups who thought themselves the true feminists. She sees the Puritan influence continuing to the present day. “Consistently, feminist criticism will interpret an ad (or film or a fashion) until it can be shown to be a temptation aimed at the male gaze – and then stops. The implication is that if a dress, a picture, or a hairstyle is sexy, it is ipso facto oppressive.”

A key basis for that criticism has been the claim that fashion was dictated by fashion and cosmetics industries controlled by men. But in her study of 150 years of fashion history, Scott said she found that “the men have little or nothing to say about it.” It has been “clearly a woman’s game,” and to an extent she was surprised to discover. Even the beauty ads were written mostly by women.

In her book, Scott also tells the stories of numerous women who were influential in their fields and in the cause of women’s rights, but who have largely been ignored or intentionally forgotten. Their attitudes about dress, sexuality or other related topics didn’t fit with those of the movement.

Scott said that part of her motivation for researching and writing “Fresh Lipstick” came from personal history. As an 18-year-old college student and recent convert to feminism in 1970, she paid a visit to a feminist consciousness-raising group. “I was treated so badly for the way I was dressed that I never went back,” she said.

And she has since found that hers was a very common experience for many women at the time, as they came in contact with a more-radical campus feminism that Scott says was in the process of “hijacking” the “Second Wave” of the women’s movement.

Scott said she originally intended to write a more-narrow academic book, but spent extra time rewriting the book for a general audience, and for young women in particular. She believes a “Third Wave” of feminism, with different notions about dress and sexuality, is taking shape within this age group, and wants to encourage them.

She also believes there are simply more important issues, especially when looking at the status of women in a global context.

“Voices from around the world report a variety of conditions and systems under which only one thing holds constant – the universal second-class status of females. If there was ever a moment when the women of one culture had a responsibility toward their sisters in other nations, this is it. We should not waste time quibbling over what to wear to the conflict.”






  • "A feminist is a woman who does not allow anyone to think in her place." -Michele Le Doeuff
  • "Women are systematically degraded by receiving the trivial attentions which men think it manly to pay to the sex, when, in fact, men are insultingly supporting their own superiority." -Mary Wollstonecraft
  • "It is easier to live through someone else than to become complete yourself." -Betty Friedan The Feminine Mystique, 1963
  • "I will feel equality has arrived when we can elect to office women who are as incompetent as some of the men who are already there." -Maureen Reagan
  • "I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat, or a prostitute." -Rebecca West, 1913
  • "Any woman whose I.Q. hovers above her body temperature must be a feminist." -Rita Mae Brown


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"What I want is for you to write 'Fuck me' on your chest. Write it. Do it. And then I want you to walk out that door and I want you to walk down the street and anybody who wants to fuck you, say 'Sure, sure, no problem.' And when they do, you have to say, 'Thank you very, very much.' And make sure that you have a smile on your face. And then, you stupid fucking coward, you're going to know what it feels like to be a woman."


-The L Word

Oct 22, 2008

I believe You're out there somewhere...

Every time I think Im closer to the heart
What it means to know
Just who I am
I think I have found a better place to start
no one ever seems to understand
I need to try to get to where you are
Could it be
Your not that far....


You're the voice I hear inside my head
The reason that Im singing
I need to find you
I gotta find you
You're the missing piece i need
The song inside of me
I need to find You


Oct 21, 2008

Namaste

"Namaste." Peace. Love. Respect.
In my soul I am tranquil. If I was close to any religion, it would be Buddhism, for the purpose of being good. Good hearted, kind, honest, true. These are my moral virtues.

To genuinely wish positivity on to someone else, is part of the greatest lesson of life; To be Real.

I am honored and humbled to have found this value and meaning in my life, at this point of my life. I am humbled by the truly magnificent, beautiful beings whom I am so lucky to call Family, Friends, Home.
You individuals stand out amongst the grey scale of my life. You are vibrant, colorful, sensual, and truly amazing. I am so honored. And I am so grateful.

My beautiful sister, my other half, my life source, you are my breath, my blood, my heart. I hold your heart in my heart. Without you, I would be empty. We are going to be together Forever.

My darling best friend, you are the guidance, my peace, my laughter, my sister. I'd be lost without you. You are The One I can always talk to, and its reciprocated. You are my sanity, Thank you.

My unbelievable mother, you are the reason I am what I am. You are who gave me life. You are my support, my nurturer, my wisdom. I can never find the words to describe my gratefulness... There are no words. I love you. Thank you.

My amazingly talent brother, you are someone I am so proud, protective of. Your innocence combined with my childishness is something I love, cherish, enjoy. I love you so much, and I will always be there for you.

My wise, beautiful grandmothers, you are role models I aspire to be. Your kindness, your full hearts, your love, have got me through this life. You wisdom is cherished beyond words can describe. You are so beautiful, I am so honored to have you two beautiful women in my life. I am lucky.

My honest authentic father, you are the soul reason I believe that there are good hearted men in the world. You have and always will be the role model for any possible man in my life, because you have been unfailing as a support system, as a role model, as a stability. You have made my laughter into reality, and no matter how hard I fall, you are always there to pick my up and make me smile.

My beautiful wonderful stepmother, you are a best friend, another mother to me. Support, wisdom and sincerity have always been what you give me. Constant stability. You are good times, laughs, and adventures.

There are so many more wonderful, amazing, beautiful people who grace my life.
There are No Words for how much you all mean to me, how much you make me who I am. Love is the only way to come close to describe the feeling I have for you all in my heart. Namaste. The Divinity within me perceives and adores the Divinity within you.


Namasté is one of the few Sanskrit words commonly recognized by Non-Hindi speakers. In the West, it is often used to indicate South Asian culture in general[citation needed]. Namasté is particularly associated with aspects of South Asian culture such as vegetarianism, yoga, ayurvedic healing, and Hinduism.

In recent times, and more globally, the term "namasté" has come to be especially associated with yoga and spiritual meditation all over the world. In this context, it has been viewed in terms of a multitude of very complicated and poetic meanings which tie in with the spiritual origins of the word. Some examples:

  • "I honor the Spirit in you which is also in me." -- attributed to author Deepak Chopra[3]
  • "I honor the place in you in which the entire Universe dwells, I honor the place in you which is of Love, of Integrity, of Wisdom and of Peace. When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, we are One."[4][5]
  • "I salute the God within you."
  • "Your spirit and my spirit are ONE." -- attributed to Lilias Folan's shared teachings from her journeys to India.[citation needed]
  • "That which is of the Divine in me greets that which is of the Divine in you."[6]
  • "The Divinity within me perceives and adores the Divinity within you."[7]
  • "All that is best and highest in me greets/salutes all that is best and highest in you."

That said, these are all arguably simply attempts at translating the same concept, which does not have a direct parallel in English. In Buddhism, the concept may be understood as Buddha nature.

Oct 20, 2008

You're a fucking Charity Case... Worthless


That's it.
It's final.
I'm done.
I'm over it.

I'm SO over it.


You passed, it's Your loss.
You'll regret it, and I'll be better off.
Revenge is sweet. Delicious.

You're so vain. It's hilarious.
You think that everything is about You.
Has your touch.
You're wrong. SO wrong.
This is bigger.
This is better.
This is deeper.
This is for ME.

But that's a concept that's foreign to you.
Because your head is so far up your ass, you can't even comprehend it.

Arrivederci broken nice girl
Bonjour Femme fatale.